How to turn a hookup into a relationship?

I once had a relatively long time hookup relationship wit a guy I met on the best tinder hookup app. We shared that hookup relationship for nearly two months. That is quite a long time for a one night hookup. Our meeting room was strictly limited to the bedroom, either his or mine. It wasn’t until two months later when he left town for business for one week, I realized that out relationship might not be something more than just hookup. It must be something more. I was not sure if he felt the same way, but I definitely want more than just to hookup with him. So during that week, I decided that I was going to turn this hookup into relationship. After about two weeks, we established pour relationship. Even though I didn’t end up with him for the rest of my life, but it is still a favorable memory of my life.

I was talking to you about this is because recently, one of my friends asked me how to turn a hookup into a relationship. I remembered I had experiences in achieving this. I figured since I am not the only one person once had such thinking, so I might as well write it down, in case other people need such advice from the experienced. So here it goes.

Find out how you feel about him/her. Sometimes, people can be very sensitive and dramatic towards little details of some people. For example, I would feel that I married the right person every time my husband pull the chair for me or take my coat. I once heard from my friend saying that once she saw a guy cooking fried chicken for him. She wanted to marry him at that very moment. My point is before you throw all your feelings out, make sure what you feel is real and constant. In other words, do you really want to have a relationship with him/her, or is it just a phase? Don’t make up your mind based on just one behavior or just one word of someone. It should take some time for you to figure out this question and take your time to do it. There is no rush.

Find out how he/she feels about your current relationship. After you figured out how you feel and given that the result is positive, then you should figure out how your partner feels. If it is a little awkward for you to ask him/her directly, you can take another way to find out by giving hint. Try to spend some more time outside of the bedroom. For many people who are in a hookup relationship, the most places for you to stay is maybe the bedroom. What you need to do right now is taking that relationship outside. Ask him/her out for a coffee or a dinner and do not end up in bed this time. Or you can propose to cook a dinner together and see how your partner reacts. By checking their reaction, you can get a general understanding of how they feel about your relationship. If they refuse your proposal, maybe they are not ready for it. If they agreed to go on a date with you and they even enjoy it, then maybe they feel the same as you.

Ask them directly about how they feel about dating you. By this time, I think you already have the answer in you if you are going for this step. They are probably having a positive answer in their mind as well. All it takes is asking. It doesn’t matter who takes the initiative. All that matters is that you feel right about each other.

These three steps is all you need to do in order to turn a trans hookup into a relationship. Simple, right? The main drive for success in this is that they are hooking up with you, then they must have some feelings to you as well, or you won’t even be hookup partner from the beginning. Time works as the catalyst Good luck to you!